We often get so close to a relative or a friend that we can't imagine even a temporary separation. We may have such an attachment with our husband or a wife, with our children or even with a parent. Sometimes we tend to believe that such a bond is necessary for our own welfare. Naturally this generates a fear of what would happen if such an arrangement ceases to exist. We become despondent and lose our sanity. And we do whatever possible to keep such a relationship strong.

Our own life forfeits its purpose when this so-called love becomes an obsession, when all we care about is keeping others happy no matter what -- a subtle form of slavery. Our own mind decays as we relinquish our self-respect and real duty, renounce our independence and abandon humanity altogether. Whenever the person we are attached to is out of our sight, we get confused and reckless. We become slaves of our own making when we fear losing that person.

A worldly person labels such behavior as a sign of deep love. How mistaken we are! A true love does not bind anyone in slavery or dependence. It does not cause a sorrow of separation either. Neither does it attach to appearances, talents or favors. On the contrary, it is unconditional. It promotes independence, self-respect and humanity in everyone around.

Through the Gita we know that we are free. Still we live unhappy lives depending on others. Therefore, if we live every moment by the Gita's principles, then only we can become a true Karma Yogi.

Real happiness never relies on certain individuals, time or place. So accept the facts of life as they are and live by the laws of nature. Converge on the message of the Gita and abide by it. Never lose your true identity: the message of selfless Love.

-- Swami Radhanandaji