To be balanced in life means to use the available time, energy, financial resources, intellect, etc. in a timely manner. Such balance in life leads towards the ultimate goal of Self-Realization.

One must find the necessary time to be alone for Self-Realization. That does not mean running away from familial responsibilities and duties. Every person must fulfill their worldly responsibilities and not complain about life. Duties are nothing but repayments of your debt, so fulfill them with pleasure.

The householder must of necessity give and take as required, and also learn when to say "yes" and when to say "no." This is called yoga, or discrimination.

This does not mean we should behave like a trader or a business man in family affairs or with friends. We should not be selfish and calculative, looking for our own gains. We should not become stubborn. We should give equal time to everyone, as everyone has an equal right. Do not discriminate against anyone.

When we serve others we do not need to keep accounts as in financial dealings. Love surpasses all the rewards that we receive in the world. If we always accept others' services or help but find excuses to help others, then there is some deficiency in our culture and upbringing, which will lead us towards hell -- sufferings only (Gita 16:21). We have received this human life to serve others, not to teach others how to serve us (Gita 3:9-13); this is a warning to the modern dharma gurus.

To live a balanced life means to be generous, courageous, and self-oriented. We must be alert, constantly looking for opportunities to be useful without expecting any reward. We must be well organized and efficient to have time and resources available for others. If we must accept help from others when we are sick or have an emergency, we must not feel ashamed or refuse out of pride. We must know when it is appropriate to say "yes" or "no," and search our consciousness for answers according to the principles taught in Gitaji.

There can be differences of opinion, but that should not affect our relationship. Life is a cycle of ups and downs. If we are miserable today, it will change tomorrow. Happiness will return, and this will be followed by misery the next day (Gita 2:35).

-- Swami Radhanandaji